Why I’m Pro-Choice, and Why Other Men Should Be Too

5 Apr

We think it’s important that everyone be included in the conversation about reproductive health and abortion.  Even men.  Men should not be left out of the discussion and it’s important that they be allies, not enemies.  That’s why you should check out Pro-Feminist Bro.  He gets why it’s important for women to be able to decide what to do with their bodies.  Here is what he has to say:

Like many issues within feminism, people tend to view reproductive justice as a “women’s issue.” And while it certainly is, as every woman deserves to choose when to start a family (if at all) it is also imperative that pro-feminist men understand that restricting a woman’s access to reproductive choice – thereby limiting her own personal autonomy – is a form of violence. Presidential candidates (and white men) Mitt Romney and Rick Santorum have regularly stated their desire to close Planned Parenthood, an organization which primarily provides cervical and breast cancer screenings as well as access to safer sex materials such as condoms and birth control. Though I have issues with Planned Parenthood and its founder Margaret Sanger (most notably her support of eugenics), the services that PP – and other legitimate women’s health clinics – provides are essential not only to a woman’s physical health, but her sexual and reproductive freedom. Legislation that states an embryo is more important than a living woman, who would have to carry that embryo to term, is absurd regardless of where you think conception begins. In fact, the whole “life begins at conception” argument is a distraction from the real issue – that a living, breathing woman has to carry that child to term and afterwards take care of it, while the government wants to limit social services and not give what they believe to be “handouts.” As much as it claims to love children, patriarchy does not do a very good job of taking care of them. And, as evidenced by the recent Planned Parenthood bombing in Wisconsin, as well as the murder of Dr. George Tiller, those who are “pro-life” do not care much for the lives of women and girls.
So, why should men care about women’s reproductive freedom? Essentially, it is sexist to tell a woman what she should do with her body. Organizations like theChicago Abortion Fund need to exist so that in the face of sexist, classist, and racist legislation all women can exercise their right to bodily autonomy. CAF states:

The Chicago Abortion Fund (CAF) fights to overturn economic barriers to reproductive choice. Through direct service and education/advocacy, CAF assists low-income women in obtaining safe abortion services by providing clinic referrals, negotiated discounts and financial assistance. While we are unable to directly assist all the women in need, we work to extend choice to all low-income women by making the issue of economic access a priority on the agenda of policy makers.

These reasons are why I am participating in the National Network of Abortion Fund’s annual Bowl-A-Thon. Every bit donated helps underserved women in Chicago exercise their reproductive freedom. In times where a Presidential candidate says he wants to get rid of organizations like Planned Parenthood, we need to take a stand for choice. We need to take a stand for women. If you can donate, I would greatly appreciate it. More importantly, the women in need of reproductive healthcare services who cannot afford it need it.

To donate to my team and support CAF, please click here.

Please reblog or repost if you can. Thank you for reading.

Steve Adler


One Response to “Why I’m Pro-Choice, and Why Other Men Should Be Too”

  1. Ash May 21, 2012 at 7:48 PM #

    So…you’re pro-abortion merely because you think a woman shouldn’t have to carry a “mere embryo” to term? That a woman’s reproductive rights don’t include her decision to or not to have sex? Have you considered that the “mere embryo” is a human being, fully and without dispute? Have you considered that abortion is legal WAY BEYOND the embryonic stage of development (which only lasts til 8 weeks of development) and into advanced stages of development – like where the child is really a CHILD, like where BY 20 weeks, that infant can FEEL PAIN as his/her nerve endings and CNS are fully capable of experiencing and processing pain? Did you know that a child’s gender is SET at conception, although we aren’t able to tell by ultrasound until about 20 weeks? “Things” don’t have gender – PEOPLE do. Does it not even REMOTELY hurt your heart/tap your conscience that babies are aborted by a torturous and gruesome method that even HITLER didn’t do to the Jews, that normal people who actually know what abortion IS are appalled by? Do you know what dilation and evacuation actually does to the baby? It rips the LIVING and PAIN-FEELING child apart limb by limb. In its mother’s own womb. Look it up – look up abortion methods, and then look up pictures of babies who’ve been aborted. A woman at 20 weeks is SHOWING (the baby is about 5 months in development) – and is undeniably a child. Preemies as young as 22 weeks have survived. The argument that “for as long as the baby’s in the womb, it’s a parasite” is absolutely FALSE and WRONG, not just from an emotional or moral stance, but physically and scientifically. A woman’s body is DESIGNED to bear a child – that ‘s what the monthly uterine and ovarian cycles do – prepare the body for pregnancy if conception occurs. The body MORE than compensates for the growing baby. The fact that a “fetus” is dubbed a “baby” based on whether or not the mom wants it, is so subjective and hypocritical. It’s a baby or it’s not (but even science knows it’s a baby, and I’m a nurse). People who attack a pregnant woman or hit her via car in an accident and cause that pregnant woman’s child in utero to die as a result, are criminally charged for the fatality OF THAT CHILD. How is that possible if, according to pro-abortionists, the baby in her wasn’t a baby at all? We give more protection to animals than we do to a CHILD, a human child, growing in the womb.

    Did you know that Roe vs. Wade was enacted to such a liberal degree (where abortion was allowed for practically any reason at any time) ONLY because back in the 70’s the judges said they didn’t know when life started, but once science figured that out, that society would have to re-evaluate and change the law based on that new understanding. Did you know that Planned Parenthood founders were racists against blacks and saw abortion as a way of keeping blacks in check (since most abortions at the time were sought out by black women)? Did you know that the founders of some abortion clinics and abortion movements have since turned pro-life and shared vivid gruesome details about abortion practices that they ADMIT are intentionally kept secret or lied about? “We fed the public a line of deceit, dishonesty, a fabrication of statistics and figures. We succeeded because the time was right and the news media cooperated. We sensationalized the effects of illegal abortions, and fabricated polls which indicated that 85 percent of the public favored unrestricted abortion, when we knew it was only 5 percent. We unashamedly lied, and yet our statements were quoted [by the media] as though they had been written in law.” – Dr. Bernard Nathanson, Co-founder of the pro-choice National Abortion Reproductive Rights Action League, who later became a pro-life author. [From an address to the Winnipeg League for life, April 25, 1981.]”…and this is just one of MANY such instances. I have done much research on both sides of the issue and as I discover more about the history and the current practice, abortion is a gruesome practice. Babies at 20+ weeks have been born alive and left in corners to suffocate or to die slowly from lack of care because they are “unwanted” despite the fact that there is a Born-Alive act to protect such children. Abortion is unnecessarily gruesome and torturous. As Dr. Martin Luther King Jr said…”never forget that everything Hitler did in Germany was legal.”

    Finally, STOP acting like you represent all women out there. You don’t. I am an agnostic, white, mid-twenties, liberally educated, feminist female. And I am NOT pro-abortion; rather I am pro-life. I am pro adoption. I am pro helping pregnant women in need. I am pro contraceptives. I am pro gay rights and marriage (I throw that one in there because most people think pro-lifers are Christian, anti-gay people). And I think that the ignorance of women/men who ridiculously fight this battle AGAINST the protection of children is horrific and disgusting. Honestly, we talk about the horrendous deeds done by men against women (and believe me, I am well-educated on those deeds), but in the grand scheme of things: women have aborted approx 50 MILLION babies since 1973 – *some* women it seems have done far more damage to raising the qualify of life, of defending the defenseless, in a few short decades than men have TOTAL. I don’t believe that the initial feminists upon which our “modern” feminism is based, would have reveled in the case of pro-abortion. Rather, a strong woman, an independent woman, as you so avidly attest on behalf of, makes WISE choices about whom she sleeps with and when. She should be ready to take on the responsibilities that come with having sex – and if not, there are MANY adoptive families willing and eager to do so for them. If she cannot be responsible in whom she chooses to sleep with, then she needs to get her tubes tied or better contraceptives (and contraceptives ARE available for free!). For those societies in which the woman has no control over her SEXUAL rights (for the most part, NOT the U.S.) where men dominate and women are forced to be subservient), the answer STILL is not abortion! The answer is changing societal norms, bringing education to women and to men both! I understand and recognize that there are horrible situations already in existence for children: foster youth, abused, etc – but the argument that an aborted child is better off because his/her quality of life would be poor is MORALLY WRONG. Who are we to say that someone should live or not live based on what we think their quality of life is (or rather, if we would want their life)? I know many people who are physically or mentally “abnormal” but are perfectly HAPPY as they are – with high quality of life, great resiliency, and a fantastic attitude. Heck, they’re probably better than most of us “normal” people- and yet 85% + of women with abnormal test results in utero choose to abort. If we really want to do a study on if children who have the *potential* to be abused should be aborted or not, perhaps we should conduct surveys on adults who were abused as children, and ask if they think they should have been aborted. NO. Most people (who aren’t suffering from some kind of mental disorder in which they are suicidal) do NOT want to die! So please – abortive mothers say they do it to be “merciful” to the child so they don’t have a poor quality of life, but ultimately no, they do it for selfish reasons, not to bear the burden of a child with special needs (or whatever other reason they give).

    In the end, abortion is an ultimate act of selfishness, not of “reproductive freedom.” The answer to irresponsibility is never to kill the harmless victim. At least in the minds of civilized, morally-inclined people, it isn’t. But in my opinion, abortionists seems to see killing as the most valid and easiest way out (although they of course don’t call it killing). I guess it’s easy to overlook the pain, the blood, the warmth of a wriggling human baby gasping for air, for breath, for a chance at life, when that dessicated body is swept away from the sight of a panting ex-mother so she doesn’t have to see, doesn’t have to think, doesn’t have to feel, doesn’t have to do what normal humans do, what a mother SHOULD do: empathize, protect, cherish, love. But just like there are plenty of ignorant people out there who don’t believe the Holocaust happened because they “didn’t see it,” there are plenty of babies who never got the chance to cry out, who were aborted by blinded, caloused women and abortionists. I actually see abortion as being a step BACK for women’s rights. Because “women’s rights” isn’t just a fight for women – it’s a fight for human rights. I for one believe that a child is a human just as much as a woman or a gay person or a black person is. I’m so GLAD that our society is starting to come around and protect these babies, ESPECIALLY when into later stages of development. Abortion is a slippery slope…I guarantee if we continue on this path, one day soon people will consider brown eyes over blue eyes a “defect” and will abort. I mean, it already happens for boys over girls. Perhaps euthanasia too will be our easy way out of old people too…

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