Guest Post by Adam & Eve-Masturbation: Not Just For Men

12 Jun

For whatever reason, there is a slight misconception in public opinions that masturbation is more of a male activity than a female one. This perception comes from everything from movies and television, to music and literature, and even people’s personal experience. Unfortunately, however this leads to the indirect but still improper suggestion that while men can and do get themselves off whenever they choose, women rely more on their sexual partner to get off. This simply isn’t true. Female masturbation may not be as popular of a topic in pop culture and entertainment, but that doesn’t mean women aren’t doing it. In fact, you may be surprised at a number of studies that indicate that a huge proportion of women admit to getting themselves off on a regular basis – and really, why shouldn’t they?

Look, as you know, having a partner in bed is great. It opens up the possibility of all kinds of sexual sensations and activities that you just can’t gain on your own, whether you’re a man or a woman. But that doesn’t mean that you can’t still generate a great deal of pleasure by yourself. Chances are, you know your body better than anybody, and that also means that you know what kinds of touches and movements get you off best. This is something that you should certainly take advantage of, because women everywhere are doing just that – and because masturbation, while pleasurable and fun, is also proven to be very healthy and relaxing.

Another perk of satisfying yourself now and then is that you can try some things that might be harder or more uncomfortable to try with a partner. For instance, you might consider heading to a sex shop like Adam & Eve, and looking into the various toys and accessories they have available to help you with getting yourself off. Many of these toys can actually be fun with a partner as well, but the majority of them are meant somewhat for personal pleasure.

Again, there is no substitute for the satisfaction of having a good partner in bed. But at the same time you shouldn’t limit yourself sexually, and you are not dependent on anyone for pleasure. Try experimenting with yourself, and try out a few sex toys designed to help you maximize your pleasure. You may be surprised at how much fun you can have getting yourself off, and again, you may find that it both relaxes you and increases your sexual appetite. Pay no attention to the false assumption that masturbation is for men – women everywhere will tell you that couldn’t be further from the truth.

Anchor Bags=The Perfect Summer Purse

7 Jun

I love looking at ridiculously over priced fashion items on Pinterest for inspiration.  I stumbled upon this crocheted purse with a leather strap and anchor closure by Balenciaga.  This bag retails for $1,125.  Not only is that so not in my price range even if it was I wouldn’t spend that much on a bag that someone else has!  I prefer items that are more unique and have that handmade touch or are vintage.  This almost guarantees no one else will have your bag.  My go to source for such fashion finds is Etsy!  These are my favorites:

This wristlet comes with a sailboat mirror!

Which is your favorite?  Or do you still prefer the $1,125 Balenciaga over these fab finds?!

Join Me At Chicago’s SELF Workout In The Park June 2

30 May

This is the 19th year SELF magazine has been putting on their workout in the park.  It is suppose to be a fun filled day of building community with other ladies.  A ton of activities will be on hand such as the newest workouts.  Ahh, that’s the key word in this activity WORKOUT.  I’m not exactly a consistent workout person.  I don’t have a daily fitness routine.  My workout is made up of walking or riding my bike.  I’ve always wanted to find an enjoyable fitness class that I would be able to attend consistently.  A class where I could make new friends and look forward to going to.  A workout that would help to feel good mentally and physically.  I’m sure it exists maybe I’ll find it at the workout in the park.

I’m not a person that likes fast exercise so cardio is out for me.  I once attended a ballet boot camp class and almost died. Of course that’s an exaggeration, but that is how I felt during that class.  It was the arm and ab exercises that really killed me.  I was just not capable of doing half of them so I would just take a break when I needed to.  I think that it’s really important to listen to your body and stop when it tells you to instead of feeling pressure to continue because other people may be watching you.

The classes I will definitely not be taking part in at this event are the Rock Bottom, Ab Attack, and Tabura.  What is Tabura?    The description actually completely terrifies  me and assures that it is an exercise I will never take part in. “Inspired by Swahili military endurance and strength training, this class uses kickboxing combos and basic West African dance moves.”  Excuse me, but no even though I am curious about the dancing part.  I think I will make sure to be an observer, but gladly not a particpator in Tabura.

Dance to me is the perfect workout though!  There will be plenty of dancing going on at the park.  I want to check out Fly Girls inspired by those girls from In Living Color, it will be bumping to 90s pop music.

There will also be Masala Bhangra inspired by Bollywood and La Blast created by Louis Van Amstel of “Dancing With The Stars”.

Since a balance is necessary to working out there is the Quiet Zone.  These classes focus on yoga and pilates.  There will be stretching and sculpting.  I will be taking the path of least resistance and that means more relaxing and stretching for me.  I plan on taking part in Sunrise Salutations since I want to maintain flexibility and increase my strength.  Hippie Yoga will be going on, but not that kind of hippie yoga.  This is yoga designed to open up your hip area.

What I’m most looking forward to is the pampering and the food samples.  Working out is nice and all, but after I like to treat myself.  There will be beauty consultations and style workshops.  Spa services will be provided-perhaps a mini facial?!  And of course there will be give aways and who doesn’t like free things.

If you’re in Chicago this Saturday you should come check it out.  It will be held downtown at Grant Park from 11-3.  All the details can be found here.  What could be more fabulous than working out downtown outside in a park making friends with other fabulous ladies?

Guest Post-Fighting Cancer With Beauty

25 May

This guest post was written by Jackie who does outreach for the Mesothelioma Cancer Alliance.   “I have always had a passion for fashion-from shoes to makeup, nail polish to handbags, and everything in between! Coupled with that is belief that all women need to feel beautiful, no matter what circumstances they may be facing. Women are powerful beings and WE need to realize it! Sadly, many women are hearing those devastating words “you have cancer.” Despite a cancer diagnosis, women can still feel beautiful in their own skin. Fashion is a wonderful way to feel strong and confident. I would like to share with your audience the reality of cancer and how women can say: “YES I have cancer–but I am no less beautiful than I was before my diagnosis.””

“People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within.” ~ Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

Many women forget about the importance of their physical identity after a cancer diagnosis. Fashion can aid women who not only triumph over the battle against breast or lung cancer, but also for those who visit their doctors for mesothelioma regularly. Many alternatives exist to help women cope with these struggles and negative aspects of a cancer diagnosis. Think of this as a time to be pampered.

Hair loss is a common side effect of cancer treatment, but can be easily countered with a few simple accessories. Perhaps try a wig, hat, turban, or scarf. Eyebrows can be drawn on with feathering techniques in complimentary colors. Fake eyelashes may even be applied. Brush real hair with a soft brush and use a mild shampoo and conditioner. As always, remember to consult with a healthcare provider before applying chemicals to the body or to the hair.

Mild soaps, creams, and ointments that are free of perfume and alcohol can aid in moisturizing the skin. Pat the skin dry while drying off after a shower. Also, try shaving with an electric razor rather than a handheld razor. Preventing dry hands and feet can be done through a soak in Epsom salt. Soft shoes, cotton socks, and gel inserts are recommended to keep feet from any pain. Also, wear clothing that is soft and comfortable, such as cotton. Dresses are one easy way to look beautiful and keep skin feeling great.

Nails are another area where pampering is a must. By using a nail strengthener and moisturizer, nails can stay healthy and look beautiful, a definite confidence booster. Acetone-free nail polish remover is suggested in order to retain nail moisture. It is also recommended to avoid false nails and gel wraps that provide breeding grounds for bacteria.

According to Mona Wade of Beauty Through Cancer, “It’s a proven fact that attitude has a lot to do with healing. So the better women feel while they are going through treatment, the better and the faster they are going to heal.” Different women will find beauty through different things. Whether a bottle of mascara or a shiny new coat of nail polish, it’s time to let the beauty shine in your courageous fight against cancer.

Ladies, What You Need To Know About Vaginal Ultrasounds And Abortion

24 May

So there’s a hot debate going on about vaginal ultrasounds being mandated by the government for any woman seeking an abortion.  Here’s the thing that no one has bothered to tell you: vaginal ultrasounds are a routine part of the abortion procedure.  Yes, this type of ultrasound is performed at most abortion clinics already.  It’s just that Republican politicians are trying to be even bigger jerks by making it seem like they are forcing you to get a “medically unneccessary procedure”.

In reality, an ultrasound before an abortion is a medically necessary procedure.  The doctor needs to have the most accurate reading of how far along the pregnancy is.  And most doctors get this reading with a vaginal ultrasound.  This is standard practice at Planned Parenthood of Illinois.  All medication and surgical abortion patients will receive a vaginal ultrasound before their abortion procedure.  The pregnancy has to be visible on the ultrasound machine for an abortion to be performed.

Here’s another thing no one has bothered to tell you: ultrasounds are really just guesstimates and approximations on how far along the pregnancy is.  They cannot 100% determine how pregnant a woman actually is.

And one more thing you should know.  If you choose to do a medication abortion you are required to return for a follow up appointment where another vaginal ultrasound will be performed to make sure the pregnancy has passed.  This is the most accurate way to determine that.

I want to share this excerpt from, yes those pro-life people that would call me a pro-abortionist(?).  What they have to say here is valid and I always admire intelligence:

“Yet, while abortion backers say having an ultrasound is like getting raped, a 2003 study shows 99% of Planned Parenthood abortion facilities do them beforehand.

Published in the medical journal Contraception in 2003, researchers with the pro-abortion group IPAS, the University of North Carolina, a consortium of Planned Parenthood clinics and the National Abortion Federation surveyed staff at 113 Planned Parenthood affiliates and independent abortion businesses between February and April 2000.

The study specifically concerned the use of the dangerous abortion drug RU 486 (mifepristone) and the survey indicated the drug could be given to women at Planned Parenthood centers and abortion clinics because of vaginal ultrasounds.

Surveying 72 of the abortion businesses that sold the abortion pill to women, the researchers found abortion facilities frequently use vaginal ultrasounds before an abortion to determine the gestational age of the baby or afterwards to determine if the abortion was complete. In fact 99 percent of the abortion facilities surveyed always or sometimes performed an ultrasound in association with the surgical abortion — while just one percent did not.”

So the real question is what are they trying to take our attention away from?  The government is trying to pass a law on a medical procedure that almost all doctors already follow…

Kiwi Coconut Flognarde

17 May


I had originally planned to make a mango and coconut flognarde based off of this recipe.  Mangoes are one of my favorite fruits and I had picked up four really ripe ones.  Come baking day I was down to only one.  I went to the store for more but they were all out!  What to do?  Well, they had a package of ripe kiwis so I decided I would modify the recipe and use kiwis instead.  This is a wonderfully simple recipe which is just my kind of cooking.  It turned out moist and delicious, but not overly sweet.  Which may be a bad thing since because it wasn’t too sweet I ate half of it for breakfast!  It’s pretty healthy though so I think I’ll be ok.

Here is what you need:

  • 3/8 cup of sugar
  • 1/2 cup of flour
  • 1 tbsp butter
  • 3 eggs
  • 3 cups fresh fruit cut up
  • 250 mL coconut milk

First make sure to butter your pan.  I forgot to do this, I always forget to do this, therefore I guess it’s not that essential.  Cut up the fruit you are using and pour it in the pan.  Next melt the butter in a bowl and add the eggs, coconut milk, flour and sugar.  Mix together well.  Then pour over top of the fruit.

Bake in the oven at 350 degrees farenheit for 45 minutes.  Done and so simple!


Celebrate Warm Weather With Colorful Dresses

15 May
My internship with Le Thrift is going great.  I have the opportunity to style outfits and then go outside in lovely weather to take pics.  I love not having to do paperwork!  I feel like I’ve been neglecting Fashion Food Feminism because of this though.  I have a plan to get it together though.
Friday was a beautiful day in Chicago so it was perfect for outdoor outfit pics.  My friend Gabrielle was kind enough to be my model.  She is also the designer of Gabrielle Zwick Designs which is the jewelry featured in the pics.  I am in love with her Barbie jewelry!  As soon as I saw it I thought it was the best thing.  The Barbie shoes necklace and bracelet are a sweet combination of nostalgia and playfulness.
Shoshanna Dress-$54.99
 Black Bauble Bracelet-$9.99
Ann Taylor Dress- $38.99
Gabrielle Zwick Designs Earrings-$20
Escada Heels-$54.99 (benefits Bridge to Success)
Soprano Dress-$28.99
Barbie Shoe Necklace by Gabrielle Zwick Designs-$28
Vintage Calvin Klein Sunglasses-$64.99
Barbie Shoe Bracelet by Gabrielle Zwick Designs-$30
Vintage Sewing Machine Feet Neklace by Gabrielle Zwick Designs-$38
Prada Heels 6.5-$64.99
Come visit me at Le Thrift if you are in Chicago or check out their online selection.  There are so many great dresses and that Barbie jewelry!

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