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Where Is The Clitoris?

27 Apr

You don’t know?! Well, here is an awesome shirt to wear to introduce people to the clitoris. Many, many people don’t know so don’t be ashamed if you’re amongst them (be ashamed, be very ashamed). You know you’ll be wearing this all summer and men will be staring so give them an edumacation lesson. Think of it as doing a good deed, helping your women friends out.  Just scoop up this tank being sold on Etsy here.

They are even available in different color combos and tank styles.  If you’ve got it flaunt it.  Now for some life advice and inspiration from the fabulous woman who created these awesome shirts.

An Interview with the Artiste

*Can you give us a lil intro to yourself and your products/designs?

My name is Kaibrina Sky Buck. I’m a textile artist, fashion designer and costumer. I like to make clothes that allow people to transform physically and also transform consciousness.

*What inspired your creation?

I grew up with a mother who was a midwife. I watched babies being born before I could speak. The vagina is an amazing thing. I’m happy to have one and I want to celebrate it and help others to celebrate it. There are a lot of vag haters in the world who need skooling.

*What got you motivated to actually do it?

I was printing menstrual panties with the same image on the crotch and a uterus on the belly. I just got inspired to blow it up real big and have it “in your face.” The tangles come from the pubic hair and also from Freud’s theory that all great inventions came from men, except weaving. According to him, women only got the idea about weaving from looking at the tangle of their pubic hair. My design work all has the name, “Tangle.”

*Would you call yourself a feminist? Is there a word you like better?

For sure. I actually got a BA in Women’s Studies before I went to art school. It was the early 90’s and I did a lot of feminist performance work. I have mellowed with age, but my core values are still very gynocentric.

*How would you describe a feminist/what constitutes a feminist?

I leave it up to people to claim or not claim that title. But for me, it is about recognizing the ways that feminine energies have been supressed in the world and then working to create space for those energies to flow freely. I say ‘feminine energies’ because I think that men and women have to claim their right to both masculine and feminine energies. It’s not just about women being oppressed. We all suffer because of sexism.

*Why do you think there is so much women hating going on right now?

I actually see a lot of positive shifts in consciousness happening these days. I think women are finding their voices in all kinds of ways and fighting the good fight against oppression in many arenas. But things like cuts to funding for planned parenthood are a real bummer. It’s a bit like two steps forward, one step back.

*What would you say are the worst things in our culture? The best things?

Worst: Consumerism, Wastefulness and Environmental Devastation, Ignorance, Self-Centered Ego Masturbation, Xenophobia.
Best: Cultural Diversity, Access to anything and everything, flourishing art worlds, radical political movements.

*Wanna share a personal story of the worst and best encounters you’ve had with random people?

I love interactions with random people. Usually they are quite friendly and amusing. But I’ve yelled at strangers too..that’s fun.

*Do you have a “real” job? If so, what is it?

I’ve done lots of jobs but I’ve never had a 9-5. Right now I do freelance costume design and textiles printing. I’m also a single mom of a three year old boy. I have found creative ways to support us.

*What changes do you think should be made to make our society more equal?

I think we need some radical changes. I am not sure how to sum it up. But I think if we don’t get it together soon, we are going to suffer greater and greater consequences. There is a great momentum building against the dominant paridigms.

*Favorite quote/s and/or inspirational?
“And like any artist without an art form, she became dangerous.” Toni Morrison

*What do you do when you feel depressed/knocked down to feel better?

Dance, stretch, yoga, get outside, play with my kid, listen to good music, partake of herbal medicine.

*Why do you think people try to control others w/laws about marriage and abortion?
Fear and a profound lack of empathy. When people embrace love and loving consciousness, they will cease to act like assholes.

*What do you think are the most sexist things going on in our current culture?

I think the thing that disturbs me the most is violence against women and children. Sexual violence, physical violence and emotional abuse are so rampant. I get sick to my stomach thinking about the horrible ways people treat one another. I long for a day when women will feel safe walking outside at night and when all children grow up feeling totally secure.

*Any last words of advice/wisdom?

Love what you got.

The Anti-Vasectomy Act. Are you serious???

23 Feb

The Anti-Vasectomy Act has been proposed by Georgian Democrat Representative Yasmin Neal .  Is this for real I thought, what is this about?  Yes it’s for real.

When I watched the video proposing the bill I got it.  I understood what she was doing with this Anti-Vasectomy Act.  Initially I thought do we want to be wasting our time doing this?  By “our” I mean the pro-woman sector of society.  So, I showed it to my roommate and we discussed it.  The discussion helped me to figure out my thoughts on it and I support what this politician is doing.   She is bringing attention to the fact that there are laws made regarding the female body, but there aren’t laws made regarding the male body.  And what is the male reaction to this act?  The men are upset!  The men do not want to be told what they can do with their bodies!  What a shocking revelation…people don’t want laws governing what they do to their bodies.

Every time something pops up in the news concerning access to birth control or an abortion law I also always think are you for real, are you really wasting time with this?  Listen, if you don’t want people to have abortions you have to give them birth control.  I mean literally give it to them for free and let them be able to pick up their prescription at any pharmacy.  Condoms should be free too and available everywhere! It has to be easy for people!

Watch this interview by The Young Turks with Yasmin Neal where she explains the reason for the Anti-Vasectomy Act.

It’s about the double standard plain and simple.  Of course, you get response videos like this one which I couldn’t make sense of at all.  The comment section of this video is what most intrigued me.  Here is a stellar gem by NautyKnight (who is probably a middle aged white man who lives with his mom, is overweight, never has sex, and plays WOW all day long, but who am I to judge)

“Women want to play God and nobody should have that power. A woman’s choice should begin and end at the same place it does for men – in the bedroom. If women don’t want to get pregnant then they shouldn’t have sex or they should use birth control or make sure their partner is wearing a condom. Pregnancy through incest and rape are so rare it’s a non-issue. A woman’s personal health is also a non-issue in most pregnancies. Most abortion is done for selfish financial reasons and that’s no excuse!”

*The reason certain people don’t want women to have abortions is about power.  These people are the ones who are power and control hungry, not the women seeking abortions.

*Of course there is always the JUST DON’T HAVE SEX ARGUMENT.  That’s bullshit.

*Use a condom!  Condoms break!  Emergency contraception is not 100% effective.  People still end up pregnant after taking it.

*Use birth control!  Again, just like condoms, birth control is not 100% effective.  During my time working at Planned Parenthood I saw women become pregnant on every single method of birth control. Even the super heavy duty one like the copper IUD Paragard.  We can’t control human bodies, they are a part of nature, it’s like the flower that starts growing in the sidewalk.

*Yes, abortion is done for selfish financial reasons.  You know, logically if you can’t afford something you probably shouldn’t commit to buying it.

What are your thoughts on the Anti-Vasectomy Act? Is it about time? Is it too extreme?

on chris brown. and why those tweets make me want to cry.

17 Feb

Chris Brown has been all up in my newsfeed lately. Thankfully, it’s mainly been about this article from HelloGiggles:

I’m not okay with Chris Brown performing at the Grammy’s and I’m not sure why you are

the article goes through the events of what happened between Brown and Rihanna, the public’s reaction, his “punishment”, and really, why its NOT OKAY TO HIT ANYONE.

So, by letting Brown perform at the Grammy’s are they saying, “Hey Chris Brown, we know what you did and we don’t think women are  important enough to make a stand and say your actions are unacceptable”?

Apparently Brown performed and won an award. And then this happened:

25 extremely upsetting reactions to Chris Brown at the Grammys

Buzzfeed , a website that posts all internet things, compiled a list of 25 tweets by women about Chris Brown.

All of the tweets said something along the lines of how they would let Chris Brown beat them.

So, other than being upsetting why does this make me want to cry?

1. these women talk about the violence as if they have control over the situation in that moment. Like there is a moment of passing. “why, yes, even though you are in a fit of rage, I can let you beat me!” In a moment of violence there is no passing/letting. That person wants control and power and they are willing to go as far as violence to show that.

2. i get the feeling that there is some underlying sexual weirdness in these tweets. as if these women are equating “the beating” to sex.

3. the detailed police report of what Chris Brown did to Rihanna. just reading this makes me want to cry.

4. we don’t think that violence against women is even a problem. or real.

I’m currently taking a women and media class and our last session was completely taken up by people saying this and that about Rihanna. It amazed me to hear how many people thought it was her fault and how she provoked him. People were also really angry that Rihanna is making songs about S&M (which is completely based on consent btw) and making money off her abuse. WTF. Because we think of Rihanna as a victim she should always be a victim, right? Rihanna is doing what she’s doing to get past those events in her life. Get over it.

So bottom line:

It is never. i repeat, never. okay to hit anyone. no matter what they do. just don’t do it. and we, as a society, have to say over and over again that it’s NOT OKAY to hit anyone. even if that means taking away all of Chris Brown’s celebrity endorsements and not letting him perform at the Grammys.

it's never okay to hit anyone.

Thank You Susan G. Komen Foundation

16 Feb

 I would like to give thanks to the Susan G. Komen Foundation.  I’m sure you’re thinking it’s for deciding to continue to grant money to Planned Parenthood for breast exams.  Nope.  Their “little stunt” actually benefited Planned Parenthood because the donations poured in.  Sorry your plan backfired.  Actually it kind of exploded in your face.  Seems there are people who think Planned Parenthood is pretty awesome.  Maybe other organizations and pro-lifers will remember that the next time they want to take on the “pro-abortion” Planned Parenthood.

V-Day & My Short Skirt

14 Feb

When we say V-Day we aren’t talking about Valentine’s Day.  V-Day is a global activist movement to end violence against women and girls. V-Day is a catalyst that promotes creative events to increase awareness, raise money, and revitalize the spirit of existing anti-violence organizations.   It was started by Eve Ensler who created The Vagina Monologues a play that talks about females experiences with their vaginas.  The stories are both happy and sad.  I’ve performed in the show and it was such a wonderful experience.  I was unable to perform my favorite monologue My Short Skirt because not all monologues are available, they rotate.  *Funny Side Note-I just turned to my friend and asked ” You know My Short Skirt?” and she replied “Which one?  You have many.” I busted out laughing.* The reason why this is my favorite monologue is because it’s the one I identify with most because I do wear a lot of short skirts.  And I do it for me not for anyone else.  I’m short and they are comfortable, less restricting than pants.  The only thing that ever makes me feel uncomfortable in short skirts is creepers.

                                                                                                          My Short Skirt

My short skirt is not an invitation
a provocation 

an indication 
that I want it 
or give it 
or that I hook. 
My short skirt 
is not begging for it 
it does not want you 
to rip it off me 
or pull it down. 
My short skirt 
is not a legal reason 
for raping me 
although it has been before 
it will not hold up 
in the new court. 
My short skirt, believe it or not 
has nothing to do with you. 
My short skirt 
is about discovering 
the power of my lower calves 
about cool autumn air traveling 
up my inner thighs 
about allowing everything I see 
or pass or feel to live inside. 
My short skirt is not proof 
that I am stupid 
or undecided 
or a malleable little girl. 
My short skirt is my defiance 
I will not let you make me afraid 
My short skirt is not showing off 
this is who I am 
before you made me cover it 
or tone it down. 
Get used to it. 
My short skirt is happiness 
I can feel myself on the ground. 
I am here. I am hot. 
My short skirt is a liberation 
flag in the women’s army 
I declare these streets, any streets 
my vagina’s country. 
My short skirt 
is turquoise water 
with swimming colored fish 
a summer festival 
in the starry dark 
a bird calling 
a train arriving in a foreign town 
my short skirt is a wild spin 
a full breath 
a tango dip 
my short skirt is 
But mainly my short skirt 
and everything under it 
is Mine. 

Football Is For Boys

5 Feb

In case you didn’t know/couldn’t tell from the football beanie, this is a newborn baby boy. Congrats to my sis Emmy.  No one would put this football beanie on a little girl.  Girl’s don’t play football.  You know what girls do?  Girls cheer.  Oh yes, even I once did a cheerleading stint.

I was the Daria of cheerleaders.  Just ask my friends, they think it was hilarious, I think it was a learning/growth experiment gone very wrong.  I did it for this reason

If I had spent more time considering my decision I would have realized: I don’t like football, I don’t like people looking at me, I don’t like people staring at my short skirts, and I don’t like the cold.  I much prefer to attend football games for the socialization aspect.  It is the place to go to see and be seen.  Or to eat bad food, all fried.  Drink some spiked lemonade with it and hope that you don’t step on a child with your heels as you try to navigate the bleachers.

Football is a beloved sport that only men can really participate in.  I prefer to look at the pleasant side of things and I do want to give thanks to whomever decided to add a half time show to the Super Bowl.  The half time show is entertainment to me, not football.  Even if its bad it’s still good.

Madonna, M.I.A, and Nicki Minaj all creatively sing out against sexism in their own style.  Also, looooove, loooove M.I.A’s white lace dress.


I’m Not Settling

4 Feb

~Carrie Bradshaw~

This is my favorite quote from Sex and The City.  I can honestly say I live by this.  I refuse to settle…on anything.   First, you must identify what it is that you want in life.  Once you do that you must wholeheartedly go after it.  Remember, there is a difference between compromising and settling.  To settle isn’t to compromise.  To settle is to accept something that you don’t even want.  To settle is a refusal to grow or change.  To settle is to lack creativity.   Never settle.


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