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Winter Weight

8 Feb


Or the time of year I turn into a fattie.  Does this happen to others?  It has to.  It happens to me every year and I always freak out.  I know it’s gonna happen, I should be expecting it, preparing myself for it, but instead it somehow evades my mind.  When I do start to realize something is going on-my thighs are starting to look wider?-it’s already too late, the fattening phase has begun.  I know I’m crazy, this is all crazy, but this is what I think and thankfully it’s a phase.  People may ask how I can call myself a feminist and a fattie.  I’m not being serious when I use the term fattie-I know I’m being ridiculous and it’s a ridiculous made up word.

I gain about 5 pounds every winter.  I know I need this weight for the winter, it’s a survival mechanism I need to stay warm.  This is how I logically justify the weight gain and it’s the truth.  And I’m prepared for it.  Which is kinda also the reason why I don’t realize it until it has happened.  It’s because all my clothes still fit.  Most of my clothes are stretchy or a little loose on me.  Some things look better after the weight gain, they are more filled out.  Still I always have a hard time with it in the beginning of the phase.

I don’t own a scale.  I don’t think its healthy to own a scale.  At Planned Parenthood there are scales in all the patient rooms.  You can weigh yourself every day.  I started using the scales and I told my friend at work that I felt like I was developing a problem.  I’ll reserve the scale for when I go to the doctor.

This year though I gained ten pounds!  I know, omg!!!  Ok, it’s really not that serious because in reality I weight the same right now that I did exactly a year ago.  I’ll explain.  So, this summer I rode my bike a lot.  Everywhere. Even to far away places like Uptown and Skokie.  All that bike riding resulted in a little weight loss.  And the funny thing is I didn’t even notice I had lost weight.  It wasn’t a big issue to me like gaining weight.

I don’t think the freak out is about me thinking I’m becoming a “fattie”.  The freak out is because there is a change happening.  A change in what I’m accustomed to.  And it’s happening to me, directly affecting me.  I don’t fight the weight gain though because like I wrote above it’s what my body does naturally to prepare me.  It’s instincts and we all now we shouldn’t go against our instincts.  That’s what leads to misery.

And the funny thing is right before the weight gain I was wondering if I was too skinny.

Am I the only one who thinks in this crazy way?

Ms. Pac Man Kept Her Last Name

4 Feb

Ever play the game Ms. Pac Man?  I did as a kid.  It was a real treat to go out to eat or to a birthday party where there were video games.  I was constantly asking my mom for quarters so I could play.  Well, turns out that Ms. Pac Man is a feminist icon.  Just watch the video and see how hard she worked and the obstacles she had to overcome.

If you are still feeling inspired and want to pay a little homage to Ms. Pac Man may I suggest painting your nails.  Every time you catch a glimpse of your nails with Ms. Pac Man’s face you will be reminded to be strong.  If Ms. Pac Man can take on her ghosts you can too.



Vintage Fashion Inspiration-Marilyn Monroe

2 Feb

Marilyn Monroe was a woman that embraced and accentuated her feminine assets.  She proclaimed “I’m very definitely a woman and I enjoy it.”  She dressed up in tight, curve enhancing dresses and lounged at home in slacks.  Her platinum blonde hair and red lips are simple and chic.   She wanted to be taken seriously as an actress AND she was actually a good actress.  Watch her last film The Misfits to see her talent.  Marilyn was aware she was a sex symbol, but wished for people to see her as a person.   “Being a sex symbol is a heavy load to carry, especially when one is tired, hurt and bewildered.”  Had she lived longer Gloria Steinem believes that Marilyn most definitely would have been a feminist.  I absolutely agree,  since she most certainly did not want to be a housewife.

Hysteria = Uterus

30 Jan

I just read an article in the NY Times, in the opinion section, “Hysteria and the Teenage Girl” by Caitlin Flanagan. The article is a response to a kooky Onion article about a group of cheerleaders from NY who “developed” Tourette’s; it began with one and then the rest “caught’ it. After some research, Flanagan found that what they actually had “caught” was hysteria. Interestingly, Flanagan found that this happens often. Teenage girls experience hysteria due to puberty, in most cases, or stress. She cites several cases of girls suddenly developing outrageous symptoms as early as 1962.

While this is a curious occurrence, I am surprised at the lack of critique this article provides regarding the long history of using hysteria to undermine women and their desires. The story “The Yellow Wallpaper” (Charlotte Perkins Gilman, 1892) grapples with mental illness and sexism. It is an example of how women can be discarded because of this kind of affliction. There is no commentary on how the girls community responded.

As a I understand it hysteria has been attributed to women only, although it happens to men as well –the article mentions a boy also developed the same symptoms–it is after all the Greek word for uterus. Therefore, hysteria means women are crazy or always have the potential to be crazy especially if they have a uterus. And if they do become hysterical then they are dismissible.

This diagnosis is a way to dismiss women, period. And this author could have had an opinion about that.

“The A word”

17 Jan

The Chicago Abortion Fund is hosting their annual Roe vs. Wade rally at the Thompson Center this Friday January 20th from 12-1pm!

Dress warm and come get your shouts on!

About Chicago Abortion Fund

Chicago Abortion Fund (CAF) fights to overturn economic barriers to reproductive choice. Through direct service and education/advocacy, CAF assists low-income women in obtaining safe abortion services by providing clinic referrals, negotiated discounts and financial assistance. While we are unable to directly assist all the women in need, we work to extend choice to all low-income women by making the issue of economic access a priority on the agenda of policy makers.

If you are in Chicago and would like to watch our show “The A Word” live, tune in at 8pm on the last Wednesday of every month, public access CAN-TV 21.

Youtube: http://www.youtube.com/chicagoabortionfund

Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Chicago-Abortion-Fund/133928452953

Blog: http://www.chicagoabortionfund.blogspot.com/

Dear Cosmo Magazine,

10 Dec

What would I do without you?!  You are a true lifesaver!  What would my life be like if you didn’t tell me every month what I must do to keep my man happy, how to wear my make up & clothes, and how to be skinny?  I absolutely love your beauty tutorials.  I tape my favorite looks to my mirror so I can easily copy them.  I then go to the mall and buy all the products required to copy that look.  $200 later and Hello Gorgeous.  While I’m at the mall I of course have to get new clothes.  $200 on make up is nothing!  I just bought a pair of jeans for $200 and then a pair of heels for $600.  I think I just spent a whole paycheck in one afternoon, but what better way to spend my time and money than shopping?!?!  I’m going to look so fucking hot!  Your diet and exercise tips are A-M-A-Z-I-N-G.  I would be lost without them.  I get up 2 hours early so I can do my exercises, eat my breakfast of an egg white omelet & piece of fruit, and then of course do my hair & make up.  Your dating advice is phenomenal.  During my day at work I always remember to send my boyfriend sexy text messages.  All I can think about is how I’m going to blow his mind later in bed.  Of course I know how to make sure I get mine too, but it’s ok if I don’t.  Making him happy makes me happy.  Also, thanks for the Need to Know Crime Story every month.  It’s great to be reminded that I need to watch out for myself so I’m not raped, kidnapped or killed.  Your advice is so empowering.  At the end of the day I’m exhausted and broke, but soooo happy.

               Thanks again Cosmo!  Love ya! Bye!

P.S. I know it may be blasphemy, but Cosmo You Are My Bible!

The Coolest Cat I Ever Did Know

26 Oct

Are you familiar with the quote by Steve Barry, “If someone is nice to you but rude to the waiter, they are not a nice person” (?).  I think this quote is applicable to animals too.  If someone is nice to you but rude to animals, they are not a nice person.  How you treat others, including animals reflects on who you are.

I looooove animals.  I’ve been having deep, meaningful (strictly platonic) relationships with animals before I could talk.  I was walking in Pilsen tonight and saw a black & white cat sitting on a stoop.  I took out my camera to take a pic, but the cat immediately came up to me.  I couldn’t resist. We became fast friends.  I instantly started snapping pics, naming the cat Jose since I was in Pilsen and being stereotypical I had to give the cat a Mexican name.

I’m always a little concerned in such situations though.  I worry that what if this friendly cat chooses the wrong person to be friendly with?  I like to believe that cats, & animals in general, do have a sixth sense and can sense who would harm them.  Jose definitely knew he found a friend and was a loving purr-ball.

He even started doing tricks for me.

The coolest cat I ever did know was actually named Jose.  I named him that when I was 3 and I thought it was spelled “Hose”.   He was “my” 1st cat of my own, yeah I claimed ownership of him.  You can’t really own a cat though.  And if I must be stereotypical again, Jose was totally a tranny.  He was technically a boy, but wanted to be a girl.  He let me dress him up, he loved to cuddle, and he was so nurturing.

My Jose-The Coolest Cat I Ever Did Know. He was definitely a feminist.

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